One Happy Natural: Belief is a CHOICE

For the large part, my hair attracts compliments or silence. There are however a few bad seeds who have decided to give a negative critique. My usual reaction is complete and utter disbelief - how dare you say that my gorgeous hair is anything but?!



Sadly, I have read and seen many women take it very personally and get quite hurt when complete strangers say derogatory comments. (Why does a complete stranger have such an effect, who gives them that power?)




I want to say that you that belief is a choice. This goes two ways. First what you believe about yourself and second whether you choose to believe or disbelief what others say. In both scenarios, you always have a choice.



As cliche as it is, you really do control how you feel and think about yourself and consequently how you react to how others think and feel about you.



I think I would even go a step further and say, some people do attract the flies. I read one blog where a lady catalogued 3 incidents in one week where random people had been nasty to her. In all my years of being natural, I only bumped heads with one individual (who actually is a friend). As I said at the top, most people will either compliment or not say anything at all. Why do people feel so inclined to insult that lady?



I think the belief system that you have about yourself is the only one that counts. The weaker it is, the more ripe it is for attack. What do you think?